Living

To say it is not so would be an honest lie, we humans are imperfect. [I must make a disclaimer before continuing though: for me to state that humans are imperfect does not denote that it is to my belief that humans are inherently flawed. That would be a false statement. To my belief humans are born naturally good, however as we mature we become only characteristically good because of the causal – our environment.] It is the imperfection in all of us that make me ponder…

why in all of our imperfections do we set such high expectations that are often times astray from our own measured perfection?

And why have we vowed to change someone so that they may be absolute in the mold we have created? I think it is rather selfish of us for wanting to do so. Giving someone the notion of a remodification of the self can only be understood by the individual as being subordinate to the autocratic propagandist suggesting the change. Liberally allow those that do need changing to do the changing themselves, and in doing so, you are freeing them of your expectations. By preference, rather than suggesting change to someone for whatever it is that you feel they are without, be inviting of the traits and quirks that friends possess that make them who they are and most importantly, support whoever they wish to become in the future. Those intoxicating expectations (intoxication for both parties) we set for others is only a defense mechanism that only weakens us because of its distance from reality. To truly care for someone is to look pass those flaws and to truly care for yourself is to let go of that exacerbating vanity. If we cannot intrinsically accept our own imperfections, and the imperfections of others, what then can we resort to? Genetic selection?